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Online Dating
How to use LOVING UNLIMITED
Membership
Sponsorship and Bonuses
Searches
Listmanager
Tips
Safety in Meeting someone
Your Privacy


Online Dating
We feel that online dating probably the safest way to meet a suitable partner. It is the intention of ONLINE CONNECT Ltd to give you an enjoyable and secure dating site where mature adults who are serious about meeting other people can hopefully find a kindred spirit.

Online dating is a direct and initially anonymous way to connect with someone. Meeting someone on the internet is not so much about someone's appearance, but about how you feel about them. You can become close very quickly without meeting them and without ever having given out any personal details. All correspondence on LOVING UNLIMITED® is done via our anonymous messages. When you feel happy about someone, then it is up to you to decide whether to make direct contact. Some people set up an exclusive private e-mail address with hotmail, or Yahoo just for their dating arrangements

Because contact through LOVING UNLIMITED® is anonymous, men are much less likely to feel reserved online - they open up much more easily and are able to be honest and free with their emotions. Then, when they eventually meet someone there is already a connection. And the appearence becomes much less important than if it is done the other way round - meeting before connecting. She might be a bit heavier than she said but you are already getting on, and she was there online when you badly needed to talk to someone last week....

And women often find that an online chatroom is a place where they can flirt more daringly than they might do in conventional social circumstances - they feel liberated and uninhibited by the internet. And they can flirt at any time - even dressed in their pyjamas at mid-night, with their hair in a turban, or during the lunch-break.

The most successful online daters seem to be the ones who don't get their hopes up too much - pinning too much on the first connections they make. The beauty of on-line dating is that before meeting, you can be ruthless without embarassment and hurt. Take your time to sort out the wheat from the chaff, build up good connections before meeting, and then go for it.
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How to use LOVING UNLIMITED

Having signed up, you will be able to browse the members' profiles. In order to contact people, use chat, post stories or use the Notice Board, you will have to subscribe (upgrade to a Premium member). Click here to see prices.
You will be able to be seen in the search results, and receive messages and winks, as soon as you have signed up as a standard member, although you will need to upgrade to a premium member(subscribe) in order to answer messages and use other facilities.
In order to stand a good chance of being spotted in the search results, you will need to fill in your profile and upload a photo. Most people will ignore members who are not prepared to post a profile. You can upload your photo directly from the site or, if you do not have a digital picture or a scanner, you can post us your photo and we will add it to your profile for FREE.
Browse your search results, and put people that you like the look of on your Favourites/Hotlist or Buddies List to create a collection of people you want to get in touch with later.
If you like someone, you can send them a "wink" to let them know you are interested. They can either wink back, or send you a message if they are a premium member. All winks are FREE.
When you are ready, you can send messages to other members.
You can also visit the Chatroom to chat publically, or request a Private chat on-line with other people, or just lurk and enjoy, adding new people to your favourites list to check out later,
The Notice Board is available for Premium members to post questions and get some answers from other members.
We also encourage people to upload stories of how they got on with a date (these will be monitored and possibly edited)
Dont worry if you don't immediately find someone you like. You can always come back later - there are new people joining and re-joining all the time.
We ask you to be friendly and courteous towards others to treat them with respect, and above all, enjoy yourself

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Membership
It's completely free to register, browse, post a profile and search(Standard Membership). If you want to use the other facilities of the site, i.e. messaging other members, chatting, using the notice board or posting stories, then we require payment to become a Premium Member. We offer two types of subscription(premium membership). Firstly, you can buy fixed rate 1/3/6/12 monthly membership allowing you un-restricted use of the site during the period of membership. This option is designed for those people who plan to use the site a lot. Secondly, you can use the site by buying QUOTA, which means basically that you pay as you go for what you use. The only requirement here is that you buy a fixed amount of quota to get going, to be used within a year. You then top up your quota if, as and when you need it. This option is designed for people who use the site less frequently, or who do only intend to use some, but not all, all of the facilities provided. See here for Prices
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Sponsorship and Bonuses
If you become a sponsoring member, you qualify for a bonus of 1 month extension of membership or 20 quota units EACH TIME that you introduce a fully paid Premium member. As an incentive for the person you recommend to sign up, and hence assure you of your bonus, they will receive the same bonus.

To become a sponsor, just click on the "recommend a friend" link on the members page to register and get your sponsor number. Then give your number to as many friends as possible and get them to sign up. It is important to emphasise to them that they MUST present your number WHEN THEY SIGN UP in order for you both to get your bonus. WE CANNOT AWARD SPONSOR BONUSES IN RETROPSPECT.
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Searches
We have tried to offer as many search combinations as possible, compatible with keeping form filling to a minimum.

New standard searches Press "New search" on the search page, and type in your requirements. You may get many pages of results if your search criteria are broad, so narrow the search down by making your criteria more specific, e.g. only look for people with photos, or who have been on-line within the last week or who live within, say, 25 miles of you (UK only), etc. You can always put members on your "no search" list they are not at all interesting , so that they no longer feature in your results.
Standard search results are listed in the following order:-

1. Those who have paid extra for priority
2. Age

3. Distance from the searcher.
4. Date last on-line
5. Date joined

To improve your position in the search results, you can:-

either buy Gold, Silver or Bronze status - Golds first, then Silver, then Bronze followed by standard status members, each group displayed in age/distance/last on/date joined order. Click here for prices

and/or sign onto the site frequently - the longer you leave it, the lower you go down the list.

Repeat standard searches Press the "Do the same search as last time" button on the search page. Every time you do a new standard search your search criteria are saved in your record so that once you have a good search set up, you can automatically do the same search each time without having to type in the criteria all over again.

Postcode searches When you register we ask you for your postcode so that a) your entry in search results will tell the searcher how far away from them you are, and b) enable you to specifically search for people within a specified distance from you. WE NEVER DISPLAY YOUR POSTCODE ON THE SITE - IT IS USED FOR CALCULATIONS ONLY

Matching Matching is an attempt by the site to make your finding a likely match easier by providing a list of people who have been searching for members with the attributes that you have given us in your personal details - you can of course change these at any time from "Admin". Your list of likely matches is obtained by pressing the "Hot Prospects" button on the search page. Please understand that this list will NOT provide you with an "Ideal Partner" or "Perfect Match" or anything else other than a list of people looking for the likes of you, and hence is a good place to start your search for a date.

Slide show When you do a standard search, the search result entries give you basic information on the member with links to their profiles. A slide show search returns the results of your last saved search as a display of thumbnail photos, 10 to a page, showing all those people who match your requirements and have posted photos. This is very handy for a quick over-view of your prospects if looks are all-important.

Lucky Dip This is not a search really, but a bit of fun for when you feel lucky. It is a link to the profile of a member randomly selected from amongst the people who have supplied photos and that the site thinks you may be interested in, on the basis of the details that you have supplied. The link appears as a thumbnail, and changes each time you access the Members page.
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Listmanager
This is the place where you can view and manage all your lists


The Hot List/Buddies/Favourites list
The list that you keep of people that interest you and that you intend to contact later, added from the member's profile and search results

The "Who likes me" list This is the list of people who have you on their favourites list.

The "Private View" list - You Primary photo is for all to see, but your secondary photos are only for your invited contacts to see. This list is where you put people that you want to be able to see your private photos - you add them from their profile.

The "ignores" list - this is where you put people that you do not want to receive messages from - added from the member's profile and search results. You can remove them from here.

What is the "no-search" list? - this is where you put people that you are definitely not interested in, and who you do not want to appear in your search results - added from the member's profile and search results. You can remove them from here.
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TIPS
Dont give out your personal details such as home phone number, email address, home or work address in your profile or initial messages - LOVING UNLIMITED's anonymous messages will preserve your anonymity until you are ready to disclose more.
Don’t just sit and wait for other members to send you a message, but don't send out loads of emails at once. Send out a few at a time, and if you don't get the response you hope for, think about modifying your profile.
Winks are a good way to get things moving. Also, if you add someone to your favourites list, they will know that you are interested and may be tempted to contact you.
Don’t be afraid to flirt - flirting is what its all about - but the mention of sex too soon, or the implication that sex is the main reason for your search is a big turn off for anyone looking for romantic love, and will make most romantics run a mile! But if you are a member of the "Lovers" club and it is just fun you are looking for, well, thats another matter....
Make sure you have a photo displayed with your profile - many members will only respond to profiles with photos. An attractive, happy looking or seductive photo will make a lot of difference. You can upload your photo from the site or, if you do not have a digital picture or a scanner, you can post us your photo and we will add it to your profile for FREE.
Its very important to make your profile appealing, but dont exagerate or upload a fake photograph. (White lies are allowable - who cares about a few years or a few pounds? - but if you over-do it, you will blow your first date). You can edit your profile from the admin section at any time to change it.
Write a standard message in a word processor program such as "Word" or "Notepad" and cut and paste it into the message page each time you want too initiate contact, saving you lots of time. Some people find it useful to use a free web email account like Hotmail just for their dating.
You can click on "My Messages" at any time to see who you have sent a message to, and who you have received messages from. You can also tell whether you sent messages have been read.
Use or browse the Chat Room, Notice Board and story board. People say a lot about themselves there, and you may find that people are more elaborative here than in their profiles.
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SAFETY in meeting someone

In some cases, it can take time to get to know someone, and in others people click immediately. But do be careful. In general, trust your instincts in your relations with other people – they are usually right. If you feel uneasy about someone, just stop the connection. Use the ONLINE CONNECT Ltd ignore feature to block unwanted messages from members you do not wish to hear from by putting them on your ignore list. If someone is abusing the site, please tell us.

Posers and liars can be found in any social environment, and the internet is no different. If you decide to meet someone for real as a result of an on-line encounter, remember that you are always responsible for your own actions.

Hopefully the following suggestions will be a guide for first meetings, and are given as a guide only, and are not intended to replace your own common sense and caution.

Meet in a public place in an area that you know.
Dont give out your home address or home land-line telephone number- make your own way to the date, and make your own accommodation arrangements if necessary.
Tell a friend or family where you are going, what for, and at what time you expect to to be back. Give them the details of the person you are going to meet.
Take a fully charged mobile phone with you, with enough credit to make calls. Call your contact periodically.
Some people go on a double date with another couple of friends.
Have a contingency plan so you can get away quickly if necessary.

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Your Privacy
Your personal details (e.g. age) are used to allow other members to search for people that match their search criteria - e.g., if someone says that they are interested in someone between the age of 40 and 50, we will check your age to see if you fall in this category. If so, and you also meet the searcher's other requirements, you will feature in the search results. The searches will NOT reveal any information that can positivel identify you or your contact details. All messages via LOVING UNLIMITED® are anonymous - people use the "Username" or "Nickname" or "Pseudonym" that they give on registration. If you at some stage decide to give out your personal information, that is up to you, and at your own risk, but in no way are you required to do so in order to communicate via LOVING UNLIMITED®.

Some information and photo(s) given in your Private details and Profile, will appear on the site if requested by another member. This information will not identify your contact details, but will help the searching member to decide whether he/she thinks you are a likely match. It will be largely on the basis of this information (together with a good photo), that someone will contact you, so make your profile appealing without over-exagerating.

No other Member will be able to see any information about your account, although we may indicate whether you are a standard or premium member, nor about your messages and/or chats to or with other members.

If you appear in search results, we will indicate when you last visited the site. back up

Good luck - and let us know how you get on

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